You have GOT to be kidding me with this. I am not sure how many of the posts you read in response to the “Plight of the Single Woman”…but I am SURE that at least 90% of the men who posted labeled that woman as a slut…and kicker is, she didn’t even say she slept with all the men she talked about dating at the beginning of the article! Maybe men don’t come out and say this…but when they are ‘anonymous’ and can spew honestly…they will tell you that they do NOT respect a woman who enjoys sex. Unless, they are her ‘first’. haha! – Joy
Right. Because if it’s said on the internet, it must be true. And the most confident and secure of men are the ones sitting at their computers typing away hateful comments. If you’re going to base your opinion of men on anonymous comments on the internet, I feel sorry for you. – Moxie
If you still don’t buy it, then I guess you have to extend the pity to everyone who posts on your blog. Regardless of where the viewpoint is posted, it’s a viewpoint, and they are still part of the dating pool out there. At best, they are a minority. I’m just saying that men are a lot more conservative about sex than many of them would even have us believe. When it comes down to it, SO many of them prefer it if you’ve parked in as few garages as possible. Take a survey of your male posters, seriously. There’s a nice collection of neanderthal viewpoints right here. – Joy
Okay…discuss. Unless a woman plans on telling a man how many “cars” have been in her “garage” I don’t see how this is even an issue. Most men aren’t threatened by a woman’s number. He’s concerned if she speaks of her sexual past in a way that indicates that she’s too emotionally detached, has issues with sex or objectifies or denigrates the men she’s slept with.Not with the fact that she enjoys sex.
If she owns it and doesn’t justify it, it doesn’t bother him. But then how often will a man and a woman go through their list of lovers together? They wouldn’t.
I agree that we like to pretend we are the best and nobody else came before us. But we know that’s not true and we accept it. We just don’t want it throw in our faces.
If a man announced to me that he’d had 50+ lovers, without me asking, I’d wonder why he felt the need to tell me that, and then I’d wonder if he had issues of some kind. Not because of his number, but because he felt the need to let me know about it.