Name: Dan | | Location: New Orleans , LA |Question: Alright, so I went on a date with this 25 year old woman a few weeks back. For the record, I am a 38 year old lawyer. She is also a professional and we both live in the Big Easy. I met her in an upscale bar and, after chatting for a few hours, I got her number.
Subsequently, we went out to dinner after work because it was convenient and I had been wanting to eat at this new restaurant that recently opened. Afterwards, we went next door to a bar and had a drink. Once the date ended, I brought her back to where her car was parked and she said she had a great time and gave me a peck on the cheek. She said she would be busy the next few days– vacation and due to a friend coming to visit– but to text her. The date itself was okay–not the worst and not the best. But, I thought there was enough interest to continue.
In any event, I texted her three (3) days later and told her I had fun and was looking forward to seeing her again. So, I asked her to lunch for Tuesday of the upcoming week. She said yes. Well, Monday, she texted me she could not make it because she was feeling sick (she partied too much over the weekend) and would like to reschedule for the following Tuesday. I texted back sure, that would be fine. She also said to feel free to contact her before then.
She then calls me Monday night to tell me she can not make it for lunch because she forgot she had to attend a work-related training session out of town. However, she could do dinner that evening or lunch the following days. So, I said dinner would be fine and told her to call me when she was ready. For your information, out-of-town means she was traveling to Baton Rouge, Louisiana’s state capital, which is about an hour and a half away from New Orleans.
Well, despite my doubts, she called me and we ended up going to dinner. However, during dinner, she
blurted out that she was not looking for anything serious or a relationship because she had just moved back and, instead, wanted time to concentrate on herself. I thought to myself why are we here then? In any event, I made it through dinner and drove her back to where her car was parked. Again, all I got was a peck on the cheek. Later that night, she sent me a text stating that the food was good, she had a fun time and blah blah blah. I texted her back stating I had a good time and thanks for coming.
Look, I know it’s over and I’m not going to dwell on it–too much. Plus, I don’t do the “friendzone” deal. If a woman tells me she just wants to be friends, I move on. However, what I don’t understand is how she went from hot to cold in a few days and after two (2) dates? I mean, before our second date, the signs were there that she was interested such as responding to my texts, answering when I called and returning my calls. Also, I don’t know many women who wo
uld still make a dinner date after attending a long and boring training session, suffering through traffic and driving for two (2) hours if they were not interested. My sister says that I should keep in contact because sometimes women say things that don’t make any sense. However, she did say to treat this relationship casually and don’t invest in it. My friend, Karen, says she was looking for a free meal(s) and to move on. Yet, another friend told me you must have said something during dinner that she did not like.
Anyway, if it was me, I don’t want a repeat. What are your thoughts?