How much does bad grammar count against you online dating, whether on a profile or message? Does it show a complete lack of interest in the process, so avoid? I’m not talking about confusing you, you’re or there, they’re but just a purposeful lack of subject-verb agreement, etc.
I don’t think I’m the best person to ask this. I know that my subject-verb agreement isn’t the greatest. Therefore I’m pretty lax about things like this as long as it isn’t throughout the profile. If I have to go back and read something multiple times that’s a problem as well. Everybody should give their profiles a quick once and twice over. But even when you do that, sometimes we don’t catch simple mistakes. We’re too close to the subject matter, so we don’t see it.
Here and there, I assume it’s an accident. Sometimes you just forget what the subject was and you’re in mid-thought and you forget to re-read what precedes a certain statement. If it’s something that occurs throughout the profile, and the mistakes are glaring, I first wonder if the person’s native language isn’t English. I look for signs that they are not from the US. If there are none, I then conclude they are either uneducated in someway or just don’t care. In which case, I do not respond to them. Color me an elitist.
I also look past lack of capitalization and proper punctuation. Let’s face it, most people access these sites and other social media platforms via their phone. I’ve literally torn a hole in my space bar on my mobile because it’s hard to hit that lil’ button just right and the keypad buttons are so small.
What I don’t ignore are the abbreviations like u and r. To me, that’s just simple laziness and it doesn’t bode well for future interactions. It also makes me think that the person abbreviating those short words is lacking in intelligence in some way.
I have to say that when I see a profile that stands out from all the rest in terms of content and has perfect punctuation and grammar, I assume someone wrote the profile for them. I honestly believe that most people write these profiles up in a matter of a minutes and care very little about proper grammar. They just want to fill in those boxes and offer the max cap so they can move on to the next step of viewing profiles.
This, I think, is indicative to how people are feeling about online dating in general. Many folks are just unwilling to devote too much time or effort into polishing up their ad. They know it’s all about the photos. That and many people are just interested to see what kind of a response rate their profile will garner. They don’t care. It’s all a crap shoot, really.
Do I think someone with a pristine profile is probably more invested? Yes. But I do not automatically assume that someone with some slip ups here or there isn’t.This feels like another test that ultimately tells us nothing about the person or prevents us from taking a chance.