When would you tell a new love interest…sooner or later?
If you were the new love interest, would you continue seeing someone who told they’d cheated? – jp?
You wouldn’t tell your new love interest. You’d never go into details about why your marriage ended other than to say something vague like you grew apart.
If your ex is especially vindictive, she might spill that can of beans. If you feel that might happen, you wait until absolutely necessary to come clean. When you do, you tell the truth. You don’t make anything up or make your ex out to be a shrew or a psycho. If you messed up, own it. But do not make a martyr of yourself and offer this information under the guise of being honest or whatever other nonsense you read in some magazine or on a website.The only reason you’d be doing it is to beat your ex to the punch or out of a fear of being caught. If you know enough women, you learn that all that yammering about wanting to know the truth is a crock. They don’t. They can’t handle it no matter how much they insist they can.
Remember…women will tell you to be honest because they want to see you fail and hate the idea of being duped and deceived. Nobody likes that, obviously. It’s bad enough to know that a guy made a fool of you. It’s much, much worse when you believe (or rationalize) that you were fooled or humiliated by another woman.
Keep this news to yourself. No good can come from it. No, you will not score points with your refreshing honesty. You’ll stir up a shit storm that will never calm back down. The woman you tell will never trust you again. If your ex wants to be the one to reveal that, let her. Then you’re a victim and you’ll have a better chance of using the tried and true, “I was just unhappy but that all changed when I met you, baby” line. Which will work on most women because, again, women are competitive with other women. We like the idea of beating out another female, even in competitions that only exist in our heads.