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From the article:
It’s one thing to just not eat a pussy once or twice. Sometimes you’re doing other things and it doesn’t come up. I’m talking about these guys who barely even LOOK at your pussy, like you could bang this dude for a year and he would never once even get below your ribcage.
They should at least pretend, like that thing I always did on dates where I half-reached into my bag even though I knew the dude I was with was going to cover the bill. Act like you’re on your way down there but you just got distracted by the sweet Portishead mix or whatever. I don’t even love getting my pussy eaten, but it’s a matter of common courtesy, like being polite to waiters.
After all, he doesn’t know I don’t love it. I don’t always want you to eat my pussy, but I want you to want to eat my pussy, you know?
I knew before I even read the comments how the thread was going to go. Lots and lots of braying about how no way, no how would she date someone who didn’t go down on her. Which, sorry, is bullshit. Really? If they quality of your sexual relationship with someone was great with that one exception, you’d dump him? You’re so ballsy! You’d “never” date a man who didn’t enjoy going down on you? What a crock. “My guy does it 3 times a week!” “Well my boyfriend can’t get enough!” Oooh…competition! Seriously. What would women like this do if the internet didn’t exist for them to brag about their relationships and sex lives? How would they find women to dump on so they can make themselves feel better?
Here’s what’s really messed up: if a woman ever said she never went down on a guy because she didn’t like it, people would swarm around her and tell her that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to do, etc. Which, of course,she doesn’t. But if guys are expected to go down, then it would seem only fair if the same expectation was placed on women.
Then there are the comments where one woman admits she’s not all that fond of receiving oral and she’s shamed for it. “What?? He must not be doing it right!” Translation: All the men I’ve been with have been masters at oral therefore I’m better than you.
I often hear men say that they “love” going down on their partner. Yet I rarely hear the same coming from a woman, despite the fact that performing oral on a man is far easier than doing so to a woman. I honestly think that the main motivating factor involved with really enjoying this particular act is skill. If you’re good at it, you love doing it. If you’re not – or fear you’re not – you don’t. When women would talk about how degrading fellatio was, I always suspected that they just were insecure about their abilities or doing that adorable slut shaming thing. It’s fascinating to watch how so many women get defensive and even insulting when confronted with another woman who enjoys sex. You never see that kind of reaction from or amongst men. You just don’t. A woman who enjoys sex is a threat to most women. It’s as simple as that.
As for the topic itself, sans all the catty intra-gender competitiveness, I’m curious as to how everybody else feels. Would you continue to date someone – male or female – if they refused to go down on you?