Comment: Dear Moxie,
Two men were given my number as an introduction. One called at 10pm on a weeknight (within days of receiving my #), the other called at 10:10pm Thursday two-weeks later. The latter mentioned in his voicemail (because I didn’t take the call) that he had my # for two-weeks and had been in Miami on business & in search of a 2nd residency there. Miami is not in a different time zone than NY nor is it an international call. I think an initial call/meeting sets a tone. These calls showed a lack of consideration and respect calling at that hour – not to mention displaying a bit of social-misfit behavior in my opinion. I have no interest in meeting them – too harsh? You only get one chance to make a first impression….
City: New York
So basically you’re in a snit because these two total strangers didn’t make more of an effort to show you how important you are?
Would you also like to dismiss them because they had a 646 exchange instead of a 917?
You live in NYC. Most people consider 10pm relatively early. If it were past 11 I could see your point, but you are just nit picking here. My guess is if these men had sent you a text at 8pm instead of calling that you would have had a problem with that, too. Sorry to be harsh (not really) but I don’t think it’s fair to expect men to know what your personal boundaries are without even knowing you. They don’t know that you find a 10pm phone call inappropriate. Maybe that’s the first time they had a quiet moment and some time to talk?
Here’s a novel concept: maybe it’s not all about you? Maybe you, like these men, have some impressing to do? Dale, the days of women sitting on patios under parasols as their gentleman callers approach are gone. You could be 22 or 42, being this picky is not going to serve you well. People can not get away with this anymore.
You have manufactured a back story about these two men that probably doesn’t exist. Personally, I think people do that for one reason only: they don’t really want a relationship. I call people like this Bottle Neckers. They clog up the dating highway with nonsensical behavior and beliefs.
Not everything starts off like some meet cute scenario in a rom com.