A little background about me; I’m a 28 year-old South-asian female (think India) living in a large metropolitan city in Canada, comparable to Chicago. I’m medium-dark, 5’3″ and 135 lbs (down from 144 lbs but much bigger than my normal 125 lbs; I gained weight because I had depression and would binge). Yes, I’m not as fit as many other pilates/yoga crazed women in my age group. I have a pooch belly. Additionally, I have acne scars and uneven skin-tone (which I’m working hard to get rid of) and curly hair (not coarse, but smooth and manageable). I barely wear make-up and most days I go completely fresh-faced. My good points are; I have a natural 34-D and curves (i.e. a nipped waist no matter how much weight I gain, and since I’m apple shaped–no cellulite! Yahoo!).
Here’s the dilemma; I hang out with a few women who are of a different ethnic background (not Caucasian FYI, but I won’t say exactly which one) who tell me that I’m wasting my youth and that I should lose weight/straighten my hair/wear make-up/dress-up and go find a good man and end up getting married. It gets on my nerves sometimes, but I know that they do it from the good-will of their hearts. I’ve been asked out by a few men (around my age), 2 who were my friends (for my personality, I guess), and 1 random guy who was skating down the street (I wore some blush and lipstick on that day, so I guess make-up does make a big difference). I declined all three. Anyway, lately I couldn’t help but notice how difficult it is for females of my background to land a man. Although I did have some success and got asked out (yes, I declined, because I felt that I could shoot higher, thus I’m actively losing weight, getting rid of my scars and depression, and wearing dresses), it’s nowhere nearly as attention women of certain other races (esp. the ones my aforementioned friends) are receiving. Not only are these women receiving more attention, but they keep getting it from really high-quality men; youthful, high-earning potential, and good-looking.
So, my question is (finally); does your race matter in assessing what your league is? If so, how much does it matter? Are my chances with with men of a certain calibre much lower than that of women of other races (including Caucasian/Asian women)?
I don’t think I have enough of the experience or insight that you’re looking for on this topic, so I’m going to open it up to the peanut gallery.