Comment: We all know about dating divorced and single mothers, how about single fathers? I have found that my dating options are very slim as a single father. Do women consider single fathers not dateable for some reason?
I usually tell anyone I meet upfront that I have children and that usually is a dealbreaker for many. I don’t want to hide that fact because I like to be honest upfront. I would have another child but the fact that I already have 2 children seems to turn women off. So because of that I very limited dating options which is cool. So why are single fathers at the very bottom?
City: Staten Island
I would think that single moms wouldn’t have an issue with this. Are you dating single moms? If not, then you might be displaying the same prejudices that child-free women are when rejecting you.
Dating someone with kids comes with a lot of pitfalls. In fact, my step-mother warned me, shortly after my father died, that I shouldn’t date a man with kids. Jesus. As if that wasn’t a flashing red light of what was to come. The step-parent almost always ends up taking a back seat. They also have to tolerate and endure the crap they see being pulled by the children and inflicted upon their partner. It’s an incredibly difficult role to play, and one with a lot of downsides. There’s a lot, and I mean A LOT, of possible drama there.
For starters, many women assume that the man is the primary financial provider. The next assumption is that he will be financially strapped. Which is true in many cases.
The next concern is that he has a tumultuous relationship with his Ex. Also a real possibility.
The reason why I prefer not to date men with kids is because their schedule is not really their own. They are at the whim of their children at any given moment. As they should be. Trying to make plans is difficult, weekends are almost a non-option and plans are often cancelled last minute.
I think the real problem for single moms and dads is that people want a fresh start. They want someone unscathed and don’t wish to pick amongst the “leftovers.” Their thinking is, I would guess, that somebody took them back to the toy store and so they must not work properly.Nor do they wish to rear someone else’s children. When it’s your child that is acting up or being petulant, you have a certain level of tolerance and understanding. When it’s not, you just roll your eyes and mutter under your breath.
I have found that my dating options are very slim as a single father.
Your dating options are also slim because you live in Staten Island. I wouldn’t even bother trying to date women from Manhattan or Brooklyn. Without delving into the tired argument of Manhattan elitism, the reality is that most people aren’t that willing to travel far outside their comfort zones. So I would stick to looking in Staten Island or similar locations that are near by.