Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): dont no what to think
Comment: I just met a guy online, he was the one to make the first move…so we have been texting back and forth for a few days…in talking I told him I was planning a trip with my son, and of course I told him where (but not right off the bat)….and he ended up reserving and paying for our hotel room….
so now heres my question….what does that gesture mean?
That gesture means this man has issues with boundaries and you should run in the other direction. If you’re not alarmed by what he did, it means you have a screw loose, too.
First, you should never, ever, EVER reveal your location or vacation plans to strangers you meet online. Especially if you have children.
Second, you absolutely should not accept his offer to pay for your room. By doing so, you are giving him more power in the dynamic than he should have at this juncture. This guy has already demonstrated that he will cross a line without discussing it with you first. Nobody is this selfless to a near stranger. He did this for a reason and it wasn’t to play Good Samaritan. He did it so that he could use the gesture to his advantage somehow.
Honestly, it baffles me how I even have to explain the concept of too easy/too nice to people. If a man or woman you barely know does back flips to get you to like them, it’s a red flag.
Just like I said last week that too easy is a red flag, so is too nice. When I hear a guy on this blog gripe about how women only date assholes and jerks, my first thought is, “Maybe they don’t date you because you’re the type of guy who whines on a dating blog?” The majority of guys who like to ingratiate themselves into women’s lives and women’s spaces are not to be trusted. They say what they think will endear them to women so they can gain access to them. The minute they don’t get what they want, they’ll turn rabid.
Do not let the hotel charge his card. And do not speak to this man again. He’s trouble.
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