Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): Girlonthethirddate
Comment: Did I wrong if I googled him?? Did you google your partner from dating site?
So I met this guy on a dating site. We go for a nice 1st date, and he still texting me.
I ask him once if he had instagram and he said he didn’t have any. but when I, out of curiosity googled his ID, I found he has an active account of instagram with the last post 1 day ago. his instagram is just a bunch of great landscape pictures, and nothing fishy about that.
Actually I’m a bit confuse, why did he lie about this? is this a big deal?
But I didn’t confront it with him, I’m just put down my expectation. He’s a good guy, he keep texting me and asking me for a second date. So we go for a movie, we’re having a great time. he didn’t drive me home, I took a cab. And he still texting me even I’m still on the cab, he also the one who text me in the morning and before sleep. I think we have a good chemistry. I just a bit disappointed with him lying…
Before watch the movie, there’s an ads, and he mention that the woman is a famous instagram beauty blogger or something, and That’s my chance again, I hope he didn’t lie again. I said “how do you know that? you didn’t even have an instagram?”, and he answered me “OH, I mean facebook.”. it’s twice…
Am I too much?
Age: 28 years old
City: San Marco
This is a perfect example of why I am not an advocate of Googling your dates.
You asked him if he had an Instagram account. He said no. You decided to check his story anyway and you “found” an account that may or may not be his Instagram page. Now, because you apparently like to look for problems where there are none, you have something in your head that you can get past.
Serves you right.
Now you’re going to play detective every time he opens his mouth until you just can’t hold it in anymore and you burst. Watch.
Yes, you’re too much.
Even if he is lying and that is his page, you have spoon fed him the perfect excuse for why he fibbed. You didn’t trust him and disrespected his boundaries.
Not everybody is eager to let strangers into their online world. People have the right to decline friend requests and lie about having a social media presence. Although lying is stupid for the reasons we see here. If it’s out there, and someone is determined enough, they’ll find your pages and accounts.
And the really crazy thing? As we saw with that Catfishing article, there could be obvious and glaring warning signs and people will still ignore them, so why bother fishing for information? That person had nary a footprint online, never spoke to those women, and the women still clung on to him for dear life. Why? Because he had the credentials that many women love to brag about AND he was perfectly content to invest all kinds of attention without expecting sex. He was many women’s wet dream. Want to talk red flags? A dude who spends that much time communicating with a woman and buying her things but showing little to no interest in actually having sex should set women’s alarm bells a ringin’.
I’ll also say this: people I barely know who are all up in my social media and sending friend requests and following me on Twitter are automatically given the raised eyebrow. Google if you must, but don’t let me know you’re doing it. That is the cardinal sin of Google Creeping your dates. If you take it upon yourself to go dumpster diving, keep it to yourself.
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