Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): ConfusedSistah
Comment: I was dating a guy for a month and then suddenly he blocks my number and I never hear from him again. This has happened to me once before when I was 20. Why do some guys decide to suddenly stop all contact without any warning? Both of these guys didn’t even hint towards wanting to break off contact. This has left me utterly confused.
I think he blocked you because he was done and didn’t feel the relationship required any kind of in depth or official break-up speech. Thanks to the advances in technology and the explosion of communication platforms, people feel very comfortable using electronic means to end a relationship. They change their Facebook relationship status, unfollow or unfriend you, spam your phone number, etc. To many, this is a valid way to explain that a connection has been severed. They might not be using words to communicate their decision, but they are communicating. They’re just not doing it the old fashioned way. Instead of coming out and saying we like something, now we just click that little thumb or star on an update. People have whole conversations using emojis now. That’s how conditioned we have become to utilizing icons and buttons to get our feelings across. Words are sooooo 2009. Now it’s all:
Even Tinder has jumped on this trend. Now a match can click the Unmatch option and they will disappear from your inbox, usually before the first message is even exchanged. Translation: Oops. I didn’t read your bio or look at all your photos. Not interested after all. My bad. Ouch.
It is very common for people to demonstrate their dislike or disgust or disinterest not by telling the person how they fell (either in person, text, or email) but by selecting the Block option on Twitter or Facebook or Instagram or any other platform. These folks aren’t really trying to prevent you from seeing their innocuous, boring, not at all sensitive word/thought vomit. No, they just want you to feel that initial sting when you realize they blocked you and hope you will take the hint and amscray from their lives.
Your guy spammed your number so that you would eventually realize he did so and would stop trying to contact him. People can debate back an forth whether this is cowardly or not, but that won’t change the fact that these techniques aren’t going anywhere. And the funny thing is: we’re perfectly okay with relying upon these means of communication until it comes time to say goodbye. Then and only then do we get frustrated and annoyed when the method of keeping in touch we previously relied upon is used against us.