Question: I started dating this guy I met through Tinder for about 2 months now. It’s very rare for me to have chemistry with someone, and I have to say, I have intense chemistry with this guy. I can’t even tell you why. He’s kinda boring, fairly quiet, and awkward. But I’m really drawn to him.
Here’s the problem, aside from the fact that he gets moody and irritable (esp. in the mornings), he has really bad breath, and boogers hanging out of his nose. I don’t know why, but I just don’t have the audacity to tell him. I feel that it would really embarrass and hurt him.
Although the bad breath is occasional, it’s still bad breath. And the bat in the cave, it’s almost always there whenever I’m with him. He’s really into his appearance and always looks pulled together, and he’s almost 30, so I don’t understand why he can’t look a few seconds in the mirror to pull out the bat, or use mouthwash.
I always thought that bad breath was a dealbreaker for me, but it just seems like there’s really no dealbreakers when you connect with someone at a deeper level.
Am I settling or desperate if I continue to see this guy? I’ve offered him gum for his breath, but the gum masks the odor slightly.
We haven’t gotten intimate yet, and yes, we have kissed, and no his breath didn’t stink when we did. The bad breath is more morning breath, but it still bothers me.
I have noticed other shortcomings such as laziness. He has a good paying job, but he has a naturally lazy, unmotivated demeanor. I feel that maybe the attraction is more physical? I don’t really know, but I am very attracted to him.
This is an easy one: tell him. Wouldn’t you want to know if you were walking around with a booger in your nose? I mean, it’s awkward as fuck to say, but it’s the kind thing to do. Things like this happen to everybody. They aren’t the huge deals you’re making them out to be.