Comment: Moxie, this is not a personal dating question but it’s a topic I’m really curious about: You’ve touched upon these topics previously, but here goes.
1) Good looks: if all else being equal, are they really the trump card in dating? What if there are two women, one with a golden heart and great personality but mediocre looks, and another who is super beautiful but vapid and mediocre in everything else? How about pedigree? I mean, would the Rothschild marry Nicky Hilton if she weren’t a Hilton?
2) You’ve also mentioned that marriages between ‘eligible bachelors’ occur due to a combination of finding the right woman and timing. Let’s face it, aside from living in Lake Como with his bros and pet pig, George Clooney also bagged an exotically gorgeous woman, except unlike her predecessors, she was arguably well-educated.
3) And, what about super handsome men who have everything going for them partnering with women who are well below them in terms of, not only looks, but who allegedly also treat them poorly? I know you’ve mentioned this in one of your previous posts stating that these men like the drama, let me bring you a real-life example: JFK Jr and his marriage to, by some accounts, the “hell on fire” Carolyn Bessette.
4) Is it indifference to people’s fame that drives these men to them? For instance: Amal Clooney turned George down and only gave him her email, Carolyn Bessette turned JFK Jr. down…etc.
Just a little bit of background about me: I grew up in a poor immigrant family and went to upscale schools because my parents thought that it would provide a good education. I was miserable and lonely as I tried really hard to make friends but was always left out since I wasn’t cool enough–rich and/or good looking people were readily accepted, and this fact gave me a really bitter world view. There are some people who have it way more than others without even trying.
1) Good looks: if all else being equal, are they really the trump card in dating? What if there are two women, one with a golden heart and great personality but mediocre looks, and another who is super beautiful but vapid and mediocre in everything else?