Why Some People Suck Less At Online Dating



A recent study published in the journal Social Network Analysis and Mining found men and women approach online dating differently, with men being more aggressive and less aware of their true attractiveness, and women being more self-conscious.

“We found that males like to send a lot of messages to attractive female users, but they don’t get a lot of responses,” said Shuangfei Zhai, co-author of the study and a doctoral candidate at Binghamton University, in a statement.

Zhai and her colleagues from Binghamton, as well as the University of Massachusetts Lowell and Northeastern University worked to develop a reciprocal recommendation system that resembled Baihe, one of the largest dating sites in China, in order to match people who are mutually interested and likely to communicate with each other.


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4 Responses to “Why Some People Suck Less At Online Dating”

  1. Dave Says:

    Interesting read. I didn’t see any mention of age and how that might factor in. I found this passage a little stereotypical:

    “This led them to have a better chance of getting responses from users than the oblivious men.”

    Again, I wonder if age and experience with online dating would factor in here. I’ve encountered more than a few “oblivious” women on dating sites so my initial thought is that this all seems a bit too black and white to me. But knowing that there is mostly likely an unlimited supply of horny men deluging women with messages, perhaps this article is spot on (again, curious to know if it is mostly younger men in the study or if age has nothing to do with it).

    I like the idea of the article but there wasn’t any mention of what happens AFTER you meet. I’ve learned to keep my expectations very low, focus on getting a few quality dates and then go from there. The real fun happens when you finally meet the person…the profile is just a glimpse of who the other person really is and it’s not always an honest one. :)

    • sandra Says:

      I think most of these men are blindly messaging women whom they have no chance of meeting due to the fact that the women are usually out of their league and will dismiss their message.

      • Dave Says:

        Agreed…but you have to wonder about the substance and quality of the messages these men are sending. It seems plausible that one liners and obscene first messages would knock the senders league down even further.

  2. Nick Says:

    The behavior is actually a reflection of what each gender has to do to get quality dates.

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