Question: There is this girl we’ve been good-friends for years, but there has always been this sexual-tension between us and recently we acted upon it and been in a turbulent undefined relationship. Recently the physical-intimacy reduced, we kept on fighting over stupid stuff. I said we can’t keep this messy thing going, either we settle or we split. Nothing.
She doesn’t want to ‘define’ anything, it’s hard for her to get into a relationship, she said.
Time goes by and we don’t even kiss.
A mutual friend invited us over for some drinks, and to meet her new roommate. We connected and the day after we went all together to a bar. Flirted a bit, nothing sexual though and suddenly Girl A went frenzy jealous..
Few days pass, I asked the roommate out.
At that night Girl A came to my place, tried to seduce me, then when she found out I’ve been talking to the other girl, she went FRENZY again, crying, saying she’s humiliated, that she’s nothing for me, that I don’t care about her.
I said I won’t talk to the other girl anymore, but she has to give me something, tell me WHAT ON EARTH DOES SHE WANT?!
She said she’ll hurt me and flirt with my best friend for ‘revenge’ and SO she fucking did! Thankfully though, it’s a very good friend who’s trying to prove a point and get me to ditch her and forget about her.
I feel like I’m going crazy with this ‘game’, she can’t forbid me from dating other girls while doing the exact opposite with my friend, to “make me feel the pain she felt”.
What the hell should I do? In a sense it feels like I’m in love with her because I act irrationally and can’t make sense out of this situation.
But am I just blinded/poisoned by her twisted mind?
In a sense it feels like I’m in love with her because I act irrationally
Yeah, no. That irrational thinking and those out of control emotions have nothing to do with love and everything to do with you two being completely toxic for each other. No doubt the sex is great, but the both of you clearly have some issues that you continue to engage each other. It’s not just her that’s out of her mind. You’re part of that, too.
You need to figure out which buttons she’s pushing and why said buttons set you off. Forget about her. Let her do her own internal homework. You worry about you and why you repeatedly enable this nitwit’s dramatic antics. There has to be something amiss with you that you keep going back for more.
Spoiler alert: continue to play these games with her and this won’t end well. This will be one of those relationships you can never quite get out of your system. I think most of us have that one or two people that always come back or that we always swing around to when we’re in certain spaces emotionally. She’s yours and you’re probably going to be hers. In a case like this, you just have to go cold turkey.