This will come as a surprise to literally nobody.
So, last month, we launched a series of speeddating events for Advanced Degree & Ivy League Professionals.
Shockingly (not really) these events regularly sell out days in advance for women.
This month we’re launching events for Fit/Active Singles. Guess what? The first NYC Athletic/Fit speeddating event we have scheduled on Aug 4 is – you guessed it – one man away from being sold out. This is the case for both our NYC and Boston speeddating events.
Our Boston Aug 7 Athletic/Fit Speeddating event is almost completely sold out for men. The Boston Aug 7 Speeddating for Well-Educated Singles (Advanced Degree/Ivy/Ivy competitor schools) is almost capped out at 12 women.
So you have women really interested in the Ivy League/Advanced Degree events, and you have men rushing to register for the Fit/Athletic events. Huh. Who knew?
Here’s what troubles me, though. We all know that in the online dating world “fit” is another word for “conventionally slender.” That could be part of the reason why women might be hesitant to sign up. I’m working on the language in the description to make it clear that people should not expect a room full of folks who look like the people above. Managing the expectations is the hardest part.
When I see that little sneaky disclaimer in disguise in a profile about wanting to meet someone “fit” I roll my eyes and click next. When will people learn to stop including such information in their profiles?? It makes you sound like an asshole. And for fuck’s sake STOP ANSWERING THOSE OKC QUESTIONS ABOUT BODY TYPE! What does “even slightly overweight” even mean?? Skip any question that prompts you to give an opinion about a person’s body.
Here’s the thing: I’m easily 175-180 pounds and I consider myself fit. But I know not everybody thinks that way. I don’t want men showing up expecting every woman in attendance to be a size 2-4-6-8. That’s not how it works. Nor do I want women thinking that they shouldn’t sign up because they think men (or society in general) won’t consider them fit. You can be a size 12+ and be fit. End of story. The only people who argue that point are shallow idiots.
Okay. That’s all for now.