Question: Am I too impatience for online dating or is this guy on some straight up BS? I decided to try online dating back in May. I’d chatted a bit and exchanged numbers for phone conversation a few times, but nothing ever came of it. Then I met this guy last month (he’s 48 and I’m 41) and we emailed back and forth for a few days and then started to converse by phone. According to him, he has a job that requires him to be on call 24/7 (and no his is not the president or what I would call an essential employee of his company). That was “red flaggish” to me because you really are not available to date if you can be called at any moment and have to report to work within 2 hours. I decided that I would be flexible and at least meet the guy. We decided to meet on Saturday the 13th but there was no confirmed place or time. On the morning of the 13th, he texted at about 10:00 saying, “Just got up. I’ll call you in an hour or so.” I informed him that “or so” was not a time. I
gave him an hour and 15 minutes to call. When he didn’t, I got dressed and went about my day. He called at 4:00. I didn’t answer. He called over and over and sent many texts and emails apologizing for not being considerate of my time and asked for another chance to prove himself. I finally accepted his call and told him I would think about it and I did. I gave him another chance and asked him to set a date and time to meet. A week went by and we talked and texted but still no firm date and time to meet. According to him, it’s difficult to schedule in advance because of his job. I told him that he comes across as a guy who’s already in a relationship and wished him well. Apparently, this offended him because according to him, I attacked his character and must be jaded and hurt to accuse him of being in a relationship when he told me he was single. Out of the blue on 28th, he called to see what I was doing because he had time to meet that afternoon. I already had plans for another date and was not going to change my plans, so we didn’t meet. He call Wednesday night and stated that he thought everything over and really would like to meet me and get to know me. We agreed to meet on the 3rd. On the 2nd, there was no confirmation for a meeting time and place, so I texted to confirm and heard nothing. At about 10:00 a.m. on the 3rd, I got a text asking what time will you be available to meet. My question was meet where to do what (I could be ready in 30 minutes to go for coffee. I may need more time for something else)? He responded, “I want to see you at some point today but I don’t know if they are going to call me in.” Again, I informed him that some point is not a time. See the pattern? Or, is it just me? I told him, “it must be difficult living your life in limbo around work waiting around for a call that may or may not come.” I’ll be the first to admit that patience is not one of my virtues. I’m like pee or get your behind off the pot. So, at that point I was frustrated and I had had it and told him very nicely that I was moving on and so should he. He wanted to know, “what happened? what did I do wrong?” I sighed. Really dude, really?