Is it bad form to tell someone you can tell their profile photos are old? Last week I received an email from a man on OK Cupid. He only had one photo on his profile and I could tell it was at least 5 years old. I replied and said I liked his profile but was disappointed he only had one old photo posted. When he didn’t respond I wondered if I should have been more open minded. I’m curious to hear if other people have experienced this.
I have zero problem telling someone I know their photos are outdated, but I usually reserve that for guys I’m lukewarm about anyway. (Kind of like when I asked the guy if he was on Bumble to get clients for his personal training business.) If I ask a question like that or say something I know could be construed as rude or inappropriate, that’s a sign I’m not all that interested.
Yes, I think you should tell people that you can tell their photos are old. Most people think it’s perfectly acceptable to use oldish (say 5+ years) photos because they assume they look the same. In some cases, they do. Most people don’t notice the changes to their appearance over time because they see themselves every day. They truly believe they don’t look different.In cases where the user posts only one photo and it’s old, they’re definitely trying to deceive their matches. Avoid those people.
If there’s a number of photos to review and the person looks relatively the same in all of them, then there’s no need to call it out. But if they only post one or they post a few and you can tell all the shots aren’t recent, yes, tell them. Users of dating sites and apps need to stop wasting other people’s time. Telling them you see through their ruse is a good way to get them to either add new photos or delete their account.