I don’t know what trust funder turned dating coach/red pill loser/rapey PUA dude is out there advising people to do this, but it has to stop. I must get at least two of these types of messages a week.
Guess what? There is no mistake in my profile. Even if I thought there were, I wouldn’t respond to this guy. Why? Because nothing is more obnoxious than someone playing the “I’ll never telllllll” game.
Obviously, people send emails like the one above or this one below to try and stand out and get a response.
Now, as you can see, I am a delight when I receive messages like this. It’s bad enough you completely ignore my stated preferences, but you add insult to injury by sending me these lame try hard messages. As I said to the first guy, if you have to trick someone into responding to you, it’s time to re-evaluate.
People using these sites and apps have a low to no tolerance for this sort of thing anymore. There is no grace period. There are no second chances. People who have not caught on to this are going to continue to fail. Remember that window of opportunity to impress someone that I used to talk about? That window slammed shut about six months ago.
When you respond to someone you need to get right to the point. “Hi. Liked your profile. Something something from your profile not a question. Take a look at mine and drop a line back if you’d like to chat and maybe meet up for a drink.”
Boom goes the dynamite. Stop with the dumb games. You know what I think when I get messages like these?
“This person has to try hard because nobody is replying to them.”