Question: What does it mean when a guy gives you his number, you call him days later, have a great conversation and then days later he doesn’t hit you back up?
It means one of three things.
1. He was never all that interested in the first place and gave you his number because he likes when chicks chase him. Ninety-nine percent of the time, if the exchange isn’t mutual, you’re being jerked around. If he have you his number then he has given it to other women.
2. He talked to you and didn’t think there was much chemistry or that you two had much in common.
3.He’ll get around to calling you back once he’s talked to and met all the other women he’s given his number.
I don’t care how out of touch or old-fashioned this makes me sound: let the guy make the first move. My reasoning has nothing to do with a power dynamic or gender roles. It has to do with knowing that men – far more often than women – will and do lower their standards depending on their options.
“But he could still just be looking for sex if he calls me first!” True, but in that case, he’s less likely to just be looking for sex.Will you scare off the right guy if you initiate contact? No. But how many of the men that we meet are “the right guy” ? If you do want to make the first move, stick to situations where the odds are in your favor.
There are a lot of men out there who will try to force a woman’s hand to get her to pony up and ask him out. I’ve traded messages with guys for hours waiting for them to suggest we meet for a drink. Those scenarios make me very uncomfortable. I feel like I’m being tested or that the guy just wants to make me work for it. No bueno. Either ask me out of pass me by. I don’t like setting myself up, and that’s what I feel like I’m doing when I’m the one to take the initiative.