This article popped up in my Facebook feed the other day and I thought it might generate some interesting discussion.
So many red flags. SO MANY. But nothing was more suspect than the fact that this guy invited the woman to a high-end steakhouse on a first date without meeting her. (I can’t tell you how eager I am to read all the comments from women bragging how they insist on crackers and coffee on a first date and they ALWAYS offer to pay.)
I’m pretty confident that this guy is a career petty con artist and uses online dating to meet women who will buy him stuff. HOWEVER…. (you knew that was coming, didn’t you?”)
I’m looking at this woman’s photos on Facebook and I’m like,”How did she NOT know he was a loser?” The douchey front seat of the car selfies; the bathroom selfie of him in a cheap suit; the gym selfie. It’s hard for me to feel sorry for this woman because this guy showed all the signs of being – at the very least – a conceited douche bag. Which brings me to my next point: do you think this woman regularly pulls guys that look like him? (Note: I find him unattractive, but I could see many women swooning over him.) Dating leagues are a thing, folks., and aesthetically he was out of hers. Feel free to hate on me for that.Am I an asshole? Yes. Without question. But I dare you to tell me you didn’t think the same thing when you compared their photos.
I’ll repeat that I think this guy gets buy on the naivete and loneliness of women he meets online. Whether or not he’s a shit bag isn’t up for debate. That said, I have no idea what photos she used on her dating profile. They may have been recent ones. My next question isn’t about her, specifically, but more of a general inquiry:
If someone shows up to a date and there is a noticeable disparity between how they look in their photos and how they look in real life, do you think that’s enough of a reason to refuse to pay the check or get up and leave before the date event starts?