Name: Reality check
Question: I work with television and I went on a date last night with a guy who is a struggling actor. We worked together on a shoot followed by conversations over texts. He asked me out and I met him for a date. We had a nice chilled out time over drinks. We had long conversations related to work, our families, likes, dislikes etc. At the end of the date bill came and he didn’t even try to pay for it. I ended up paying for both of us as i wanted to avoid awkwardness. I don’t mind splitting the bill but he didn’t even offer to pay anything. He seemed to be a nice guy but this not paying at all have been such a turn off. Previously I have had experiences of spending money on my boyfriends without them paying. What should I do, should I meet him again or call it off. Please help I am confused.
There isn’t a guy reading this that feels sorry for you, but that’s neither here nor there.
The first red flag that this guy was broke as fuck was the fact that he was an actor. I zip right past those SAG/AFTRA guys on Bumble. LOL SAG AND AFTRA. They probably played a waiter with one line on an episode of Girls. Anyway, NO you should not call this loser again. What’s wrong with you that you’re even considering that?
He asked you out, which means he pays. It also means you make a sincere offer to contribute, not just do that fake purse reach garbage. What he did was uncouth and rude. HOWEVER…now you know how guys feel. Sucks to have some entitled asshole sit across from you and not budge when that billfold gets placed on the table, doesn’t it?
The real issue here is that you’re confused about what to do. Seriously, have we just become accustomed to making excuses for weak men? Nope. Fuck no. If he can’t pay his way tell him to stay home.