There’s really nothing like matching with someone on Tinder or OKCupid only to discover through messaging that they vote with your opposing political party.
While how one identifies politically has always been a bone of contention, never has the issue been more volatile than it is today. As I swiped through profiles yesterday, I came across on guy that said, “No crooked Hillary voters!” Another included the line, “If you voted for the Orange Cheeto we probably won’t get along.” That’s fine, I guess. I will only date someone whose ideologies align with the Democratic party. Ensuring that prior to or quickly thereafter a message exchange has not only become tricky, but a requirement. The last thing I want to do is meet up with someone and have the election come up – as it does more and more these days – and find we’re not on the same side. Awkward.
I’ll also throw in there that all these writers (and they’re almost exclusively women) penning breathlessly tone deaf essays about their Trump-supporting partners need to GTFO of here. Sorry, but if your husband or wife voted Trump, they were always an asshole. Their misogynistic, racist, homophobic tendencies were always there. You just chose to overlook it. You get no sympathy from me. Maybe you shouldn’t be making that information public, because I’ll side-eye you harder than side-eying them. If you’re not someone who stands up to injustice, you can fuck right off.
It goes without saying that I find Trump supporters repugnant. However, I find even the most die-hard of Anti-Trump supporters kind of…tiresome after a point. We get it. WE GET IT. On Facebook, I’ve hidden so many people from the right as well as the left in the last few months. I can’t deal with the constant umbrage. I want to date someone tuned in an aware, but not rabid, which is why I avoid swiping right on any liberal that comes across too angry. Invested is great. Hostile is not.
In my bio and profile, I just say, “Liberal.” That’s it. Wine drinker. ASPCA supporter. Writer. Liberal. Interval trainer. I’ll let them decide the rest for themselves. But since many people swipe and message before reading, many of us are now in a position where we have to resolve whether they are Democrat or Republican first.
So what do you do? Do you come out of the gate with that question? Or do you just state your political party in your bio/profile and hope they read it? This goes both ways, btw. I’m not just asking Democrats how they weed out Republicans. I want to hear from both sides.