Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating



The NY Post never disappoints:

Why Hot People Aren’t Worth Dating


Let’s unpack this douchebaggery, shall we?

“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says [Dan] Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper West Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair. “I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.”

He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.

Yes. They were shallow and vapid. Not him, though. Nope. The fact that he – in his own words  “went for the hottest girl he could find” is not a reflection on his character whatsoever.  I’m sure that all these models went out with the average looking schlub for his sterling personality and not for his  investment banker pay check, though, right?



Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two are now happily engaged.  The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.

“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown. “Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.”

Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. Rochkind proposed to her last May in Central Park. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.

Yeah, ol’ Dan really adjusted his standards didn’t he, folks? He found a petite, ten years younger,  objectively attractive woman from a rich family to marry. What a guy.  She’s the VP of her mother’s matchmaking company? LOL.  So, she’s thirty and lives off her parents? Okay. Thanks for clearing that up, Danny-boy. I used to read Carly’s dating blog when she had one a few years back. I wish these two kids a lot of luck, because they both seem insufferable.

“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis. But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.

Let’s be clear about one thing: nobody gives a fuck if the person they marry plays a god damn instrument. A writer with a doctorate in…philosophy? Hmm. So, what has this guy done with his big impressive doctorate? From taking a quick tour of his vanity site, I’d say nothing. But hey, all that free time means he can sit in the gym for hours working on his core. Get the fuck out of here.  Only people with little else to offer assign so much importance to having a six-pack.

After dating an athletic banker with model good looks for two years, Sonali Chitre, 34, has sworn off hotties.

“He was a Nazi about his diet and would work out hard-core and cared more about his body than just living life,” says Chitre, who broke up with the finance guy last October.

Chitre, an environmental lawyer and the founder of Priyamvada Sustainability Consulting, considers herself “a 9 or a 10,” but she says she’s done with gorgeous guys. Now, she’s more interested in “superballer” men with high-paying careers.

“I still want someone who’s in decent shape, but it’s more important to find a guy who’s goal-oriented,” she says. “[Beautiful men] are very into their bodies and don’t really care about people that much, or make time for their family.”

Okay, first? Unless a person is an actual Nazi, stop using the term “Nazi” to describe someone who is strict to the point of obsession about something. I mean, I know you’re super hot – a 9 or 10! – but pretend to show some semblance of sensitivity. Secondly, only the most shallow of people would assign a numerical value to their attractiveness in this context. Nobody worth knowing would say non-ironically that they think they’re a 10.

Megan Young, a 23-year-old p.r. woman from Hoboken, NJ, also changed her dating habits. The svelte, blue-eyed brunette used to exclusively date 6-foot-tall dudes who looked like Calvin Klein models.

“As a person who’s always been complimented on [my] ‘stunning beauty’ … I’d been searching for a ‘hot’ guy to match the label I had always been given,” says Young. “But after a date or two, they’ll have problems hanging out with you and then will ghost.”

Let’s take a look at her “stunning beauty” shall we?


Am I missing something? Sure, she’s attractive but…this is New York City. By Manhattan standards, this woman is merely pretty. And who the hell – with a straight face – admits they’ve always been complimented on their stunning beauty? How detached from reality must you be to not know how obnoxious that makes you sound?

Last year, she stopped putting looks at the top of her dating criteria on Bumble, instead opting for guys who traveled a lot and were “make the most out of their lives” types. In August 2016, she met Christopher Argese, a 27-year-old security technician. Unlike the square-jawed bachelors who disrespected her, Argese is more boy-next-door in the looks department. But he’s kind and attentive.

“He’s not a model, but he’s so much more attractive in who he is as a person,” Young says.

And best of all, she says, Argese doesn’t just see her as a status symbol.

“When I asked him why he loves me, he said that he loves my drive and my passion,” Young says.

Ah. He’s not a model, but…

That but leaves a lot open to interpretation, doesn’t it. “I mean, he’s not a model but he’s kind and smart.” Translation: I wanted a model but they blow me off because I’m so taken with myself so he’ll do.

The best part of this article is how completely tone deaf the subjects being interviewed are. Each one is more oblivious to how they come off than the last. I also love, love, LOVE how Dan and Meghan think they somehow traded down from the uber-hot people they were used to dating.  Everyone included in this article truly believes they’re different, that they’ve figured it out and suddenly developed substance. Nope. They’re still and hollow as the people they’re criticizing.

Maybe – and I’m going out on a limb here – maybe the reason all those hotties these nit wits dated turned out to be so disappointing is because – spoiler alert! – all four of these people are The Literal Worst.

Photo credits – NY Post

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30 Responses to “Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating”

  1. fuzzilla Says:

    **started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model**

    Yes, the sight of her in a bikini would send the average man into YEARS of therapy ::eye roll forever::

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  2. Beta Male Says:

    These two are totally unaware of their privilege.

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  3. Bree Says:

    Hahahaha! This was hilarious. Thank you.

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    • Selena Says:

      I was amused too. Especially by the look on the boyfriend’s face in the photo with Megan Young. It silently speaks, “Yeah, I know she’s insufferable. Why am I here?”

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  4. Annabelle Says:

    Hardee har har har! OMG! With the advent of online dating, everybody has been called beautiful or stunning, no matter how average they truly are!And, let’s be real here, fantasizing about dating a hot guy or chick aside, as most of us will cop to doing, the “looks thing,” and even the “great sex thing,” only goes so far. Then you’ve got to hope for humor, smarts and kindness.

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  5. fuzzilla Says:

    **the most abundant natural resource on earth is men’s misplaced confidence https://t.co/IuSwKeo8Dc

    — Jessica Roy (@JessicaKRoy) April 13, 2017**


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    • Beta Male Says:

      Funny how the article became “satire” after they saw the negative response to the article.

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  6. BTownGirl Says:

    “As a person who’s always been complimented on [my] ‘stunning beauty…” Child, don’t you sit up here and tell those lies!


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  7. KK Says:

    i like how the article gives a shout-out to the fiancee’s mother’s matchmaking business. I will give the fiancee some credit – if she is in charge of marketing, she definitely gets the name out there.

    the dude is unbelievable. Like, wow. he really lowered his standards. Wtf? just the way the couple posed in the picture came off as irritating. i am 99 percent certain that the reason why he settled for such a troll was because he aged out of the super hotties and she really wanted to get engaged before 30.

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  8. Marshmallow Says:

    I wish you ran the picture of the hot harpist who thinks he’s super smart.

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    • Marshmallow Says:

      Violinist. Obviously all that gorgeousness has affected my ability to think straight.

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      • Parenting Says:

        He should really stay focused on perfecting his abs. His bio was easily the dullest thing any human being has ever written. Somebody tell him he is not a “writor”.

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  9. AnnieNonymous Says:

    LOL, the men were going for women 10-15 years younger than them and complaining that there was no emotional connection. I bet Carly feels great about being this dude’s version of fug.

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    • BTownGirl Says:

      Seriously, I can’t think of anything more heart-warming and flattering than a dude being like, “Yeah, so I got over myself and realized I shouldn’t go for people who are super hot, so I went for this one…who is clearly LESS HOT”. I can’t. I just can’t.

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  10. Yvonne Says:

    Does anyone in their right mind care about these people? The most offensive thing about this article are the links it provides to these people’s businesses and websites. It’s nothing more than a P.R. scheme.

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  11. lolol Says:

    that girl saying shes a 9 or 10 is f’in delusional. she’s not even close, 6 at best.

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    • Beta Male Says:

      He’s not that good looking either.

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    • AnnieNonymous Says:

      Funny thing is, I know a lot of genuine 9’s and 10’s (women) who are kind, employed, and educated. Almost all of them are single because men just assume they’ll be vapid or slutty so they don’t bother approaching them.

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  12. Zaire Says:

    Seriously? Dan thinks he “settled” by getting with that kind of woman. I can’t with these people but I’d be lying if I said I’m surprised.

    My roommate thinks and behaves just like this. She’s attractive and in shape, similar to the girl in the blue dress. She has said that she prefers to only date doctors, guys with 6 figures, has to be 6ft+, white, etc. She was dating a doctor and she looked up his salary (public info in my state) and wondered out loud “I’m not sure if $287k is enough to sustain the kind of lifestyle I want”. We live in a lower middle neighborhood and are still in school. What “lifestyle”? Yes she said that. With a straight face. One guy rejected her be cause he wasn’t attracted (I think that’s a dick thing to say but that’s me) and she seriously said “how is that possible I’m beautiful” as if being attractive guarantees you anything. I told her she should just let him go. She didn’t of course. Wanted to keep him around to ‘show him what he was missing’.

    I don’t want to go on but she’s done and said a lot more entitled and weird things. I really hope she gets what she’s looking for, though. I’d hate to be the guy she had to ‘settle’ for.

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  13. Speed Says:

    I don’t know. The people in the article obviously put a very high premium on looks and money (superballers!) and seem to be more or less getting what they want, so more power to them. The hedge fund guy and the matchmaking VP woman got married because both look great, and he can bring international financial networks and she a large database of high-income clients. Perfect, actually; this is how our ruling class lives. Nothing wrong at all.

    The only potential problem I see is that, since the relations are entirely a mix of transactional (both parties bring money) and presentational (both parties look great), any resulting marriage could be fragile.

    Not all issues in a marriage, and especially in childrearing, can be solved by money and great looks. A very deep and complex skill set is necessary: love, patience, empathy, compromise, resilience…we know the list. Just because your wife is “hot” or even “hot and rich” or has a “passport full of stamps” doesn’t mean she has the will or ability to stand by you through illness or unemployment. Catastrophes show us the real strength of a person, not weeks in Cabo. So personally, I’m much more interested in hearing how a woman handled a family or personal crisis than how she managed to make partner early, find the best hotel in Bucharest, or maintain her secret high-octane workout.

    Thirty years ago, this was common sense. But perhaps nowadays it’s dinosaur thinking.

    Anyway, so as long as these glamorous people are hopping out of each other’s beds, I say right on. But if they go further, well….

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  14. UWSGal Says:

    Whoa, a whole bunch of people here knocking the girl in the blue dress (who for the record I think is beautiful) while calling the people in the article shallow and vapid??? Shocker. FYI, these are real people who will read this and be hurt. And their “crime”? They’re young, attractive and get what they want. Horrible, indeed.

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    • Dark Sarcasm Says:

      Thanks for your input, ‘Megan’

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      • UWSGal Says:

        Nice try, dude. One doesn’t have to be a particular target of bullying to recognize the ridiculous hypocrisy of this entire blog post and comments thread. You can either be a mature feminist and a “person of substance” or you can be an insecure catty woman who knocks down a 23 yo girl (and other ladies featured in the article for that matter) based on their looks. You can’t be both. IMO no person who’s trashing these people in comments or on twitter can claim a moral high ground or some “substance”.

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        • ATWYSingle Says:

          You can either be a mature feminist and a “person of substance” or you can be an insecure catty woman who knocks down a 23 yo girl (and other ladies featured in the article for that matter) based on their looks.

          When someone does an interview about how good looking they are, that opens up the conversation to their attractiveness. That’s not “knocking a woman down.” That’s taking the words she used to describe herself and debating them. The feedback in such a case is not unsolicited.

          IMO no person who’s trashing these people in comments or on twitter can claim a moral high ground or some “substance”.

          I realize you have issues with women and , as a result, don’t find what he said offensive. Yes, we know, you work in finance so you probably hear this stuff all the time and agree with it. What he’s saying is misogynistic, as he’s not even acknowledging his own shallowness. None of these people are. That’s the hook of the article, in case you haven’t figured it out. These people are delusional assholes who base people’s worth on the external and how much money they make. Nobody is obligated to be kind to people like this.

          PS? You’re not a feminist, so fucking spare everybody your faux concern.

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          • UWSGal Says:

            1) the “feedback” is completely unsolicited. She did not ask your or mine or anybody else’s opinion on her looks. She simply stated that she gets complimented on her beauty (of course she should have known better that haters gonna hate, but again she’s 23. You live and you learn)
            2) not sure who “he” is in this context and what he said. Pretty sure I don’t hear anything inappropriate at work (the wolf of Wall Street is a movie, not a reality)
            3) Last I checked, nobody authorized you to decide who is and who’so not a feminist. But if the definition is – everybody who disagrees is not one – deal me in.

            Are people in this article prioritizing looks and status? Sure. But then again, what is wrong with wanting certain looks and status? What the hell is this elusive “substance” that we are all supposed to prioritize, and furthermore, why are the two mutually exclusive? And why does the article bother you so much – is it may be – just may be – because of the fact that these “undeserving”, “shallow” and “insufferable” people have what you don’t – an actual relationship?

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            • Nia Says:

              Substance is character.

              Character is demonstration of your core values over time. Values like charity, love, compassion, support for others’ passions, patience, endurance, and caring.

              Some of these might be demonstrated to some degree in your physical body, such as a very toned body being a demonstration of persistence, self-control, etc. However most core values are how we treat others, even at no gain to ourselves. How we treat the weakest and most vulnerable members of society when no one is watching.

              Being “hot” or even having a high status, high paying job is not character. Those things can come and go. The model can be in a car accident leaving her disfigured. The Wall Street trader can lose his job in a crash like 2008 and be “black balled” and have to start over.

              There are many people who are outwardly beautiful and inwardly beautiful too. However, since it’s a recognized phenomenon that very good looking people have a pronounced privilege through life (better jobs, more money in those jobs, little perks like “oh, nevermind that parking fee” etc) many very good looking people tend to “coast” through life and don’t develop the deep levels of character that people who are merely average do. Not always the case, but often.

              The “he” is the anchor subject of the article, the primary subject who is quoted and pictured saying he ‘no longer dates hot women’. I think one of the reasons people got upset is because of a couple things:

              —Hotness if often out of woman’s control, especially since so much of it revolves around being *young*.

              Take Madonna for example. Her body is toned within an inch of its life, her face is unlined, and her hair is perfect. But almost any man you talk to often find her viscerally repellant. How can that be? She’s “hot”–she’s thin, toned, and blonde. The reason is partly that she’s older, and she’s wearing clothing and hairstyles that we generally reserve for much younger women. So it’s not just the body type. It’s the youth that makes a woman desirable. And even considering plastic surgery, extreme diets and work out regimes, and clothing choices, one can’t disguise one’s age forever.

              Nothing is inherently “wrong” with desiring money, status, or extremely good looks. What’s “wrong” with this article is:
              —Putting those things above character
              —Humblebragging on several levels:
              “I could have and did get total hotties, but I was smarter than them, so I’ve lowered my standards to merely really, really good looking people
              “I know what’s really important. Really, really good looking people who *also* allow me to virtue signal by indicating that I’m “deep.”

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              • Ava Says:

                If Madonna is repelling to men its because she isn’t hot at all despite her body being super toned and having blonde hair, she has horrible hands and hasn’t aged well in the face. Men aren’t repelled by women like Jennifer Lopez or Monica Bellucci who aren’t young anymore, and even JL wears outfits designed for much younger women and men don’t repel her and she definitely hasn’t lost any of her beauty

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  15. cb Says:

    Megan may want to check herself. Her fiance happens to be 100x better looking than she is.

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  16. Ava Says:

    This article confirms that the criteria in choosing who to date has become very shallow and some of the comments are annoying but people are free to date who they chose and nothing can change that. I agree that Meagan is not as attractive as she stated and its not about putting down a 23 year old girl. There are different levels of beauty and she states that she is stunning when she is your ordinary pretty girl. On the other hand the girl who considered herself a 9 was truly stunning and beautiful. Dean isn’t good looking at all, just physically fit, facially his girlfriend does not look 10 years younger than him looking at her picture up close I would have thought closer to his age, but she has a good figure well dressed and beautiful hair. In the end none of these people look like models apart from the one who said she was a 9 lol

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  17. Beta Male Says:

    What this article and the scrutiny of Donald Trump’s family proves is that dating and marriage, particularly for the elite are transactional to a big extent as much as we like to deny it by notions of love and romance.

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