Jeeessuus!.. This OP had “Created” in her mind what this guy did, had done, or could do…??
Like I say all the time… “You women are you own worst enemy”.. You think waaayyy too much and quite frankly you drive yourself out of your minds to a state of paranoia. Stop it already.
“If he really likes me he will call again.” Who are you.. Sofia Vergara? Get out of here!
First of all … it is waaay f’d up that the slide tackle girl disrespected the OP by handing the guy her number while they were dancing/ making out. Women can be SOB’s. If a guy did that to another guy.. he’s catching a right hook… done! You girls love the Drama… that cock-blocker one-up’d herself from the OP to prove to herself and possibly her friends that she is better than YOU and possibly saw something in YOU that gave her the balls to do such a nasty thing. Which is entirely f’d up to you and every good girl out there.
Stop placing the blame on the guys. They are great guys out there but they are all too used to the paranoid psyche. The guys act this way because they are tired of the nonsense women put them through. Why deal with it?? Here is the end result-Go out and bang everything / anything in site.. no mercy! How’s that for a slide-tackle? – Cisco Kid
As to men wanting women who are “self-sufficient,” what that means isn’t that you work and pay your rent or mortgage, that you pay your car, that you pay all of your OWN bills. What that usually means is that they do not want to treat you out on the dates! So, see it for what it is ladies!: The guys want to bang you without even giving you the emotional food that most emotionally healthy women need, which is a sense of romance, of wooing, of consideration, of gentlemanliness! Bottom line: men who behave like that are selfish users who just want a free [redacted]!
Yes, some women behave badly in that they take advantage of men, but by and large, and by a much greater margin, men are the ones who mistreat women. Ladies, if you think that your grandmothers and mothers did us a favor through Women’s Lib, think again! All they did was help men and GIVE MEN EVEN MORE POWER OVER US than they already had, and they did that by breaking down the moral boundaries that existed prior to Women’s Lib (which I believe should be called “Women’s Enslavement”!), which allowed men to withhold their love for us, to not even try to be monogamous, to play the field more than ever (even into their old age — and I mean OLD age!), and to make us feel devalued!
As regards the men who still have contact with their ex-wives when they have children and that some of those ex-wives might be financially dependent on the divorced men, that’s just part of life and something that we the women have to accept. I, for one, respect a man who cares for his children and sees them on a regular basis. I would not want a man who divorced not just the wife, but his child/ren! Having said, that, however, his contact with the ex-wife must be completely focused on the children and there must not be any emotional involvement/lust/love/sex with the ex-wife. – Terry
A year ago, I wrote a long rant about the problems of dating middle-aged men, very similar to what the OP has to say as well as Terry’s posts. Someone sent me a private message asking me a simple question: If you do meet the perfect guy, exactly what do you have to offer him?
The OP says she has a good job, no bad debts… but that is something that attracts women, not men. (Well it attracts loser men, but we don’t want those guys.) Terry has a pretty lengthy list of how men have nothing to offer. I think both of them – and really all middle aged women – need to be able to answer the question posed to me in order to have an easier chance of being in a successful relationship. Just showing up, being a woman doesn’t fly anymore. We aren’t cute 20-somethings so that’s out. So what else do you have? – Vox
Thoughts?
READER RANT – Guys, If You Want To Get Laid, You Must Pay The Tab
Okay, so…I’m just going to leave this here. Enjoy!