It is NOT unfair for the guy to pay on dates. We do NOT NEED males to pay for our meal from the standpoint of nourishment. In case you don’t get it, since you guys are full of yourselves and the watermelon that you have for heads and egos won’t let you REASON things through – let me illucidate you as to the reason you pay. It is to: 1) earn our respect as a GENTLEMAN, 2) exhibit common sense, 3) make the lady feel wanted and appreciated, 4) make the lady feel protected – as in you know how to take care of business so that we can enjoy being with you, and 5) because ALL you want is to GET LAID! If you expect to get laid and on top of that you expect us to PAY for the PLEASURE of YOU getting laid – that is being much worse than the bleepholes that you already are. That makes you gigolos!
A sixth reason is because MOST men still make MORE than most women, so we can’t afford to be asked on dates and then be expected to pay! In any event, expecting us to pay is a ROMANCE KILLER! If a guy is going to treat me like he would treat a male buddy and expect me to “go dutch” or expect me to pay for the both of us, there is no way that I can feel any romantic feeling toward him as I would if I think he is behaving like “prince charming. I don’t remember Prince Charming ever asking Cinderella to pay for anything! And yes, deep down, most women, regardless of age, still believe that their Prince Charming is out there somewhere and hope to find him. It is called ROMANCE!…
Most of us expect traditional behavior. Most women are not sluts. Yes, there are women out there, I have learned, that like guys, just want to get laid, but MOST women are not like that. They want a nice, enjoyable evening out with the gentleman, dinner and perhaps dancing, or a little stroll, nice getting-to-know-you conversation, mutual politeness and courteous behavior, and if there is a mutual spark of potential interest, then looking forward to a second date. Then from there it either progresses to something more meaningful, followed by sex at an appropriate point, or it doesn’t. It’s that simple!
Having said that, YOU MISSED one IMPORTANT POINT about women and equality. We do WANT EQUALITY IN EDUCATION AND IN JOBS/CAREERS. However, most of us do NOT want equality in our personal/romantic relationship with a man. To be equal to a guy in the romantic arena means to be like him – and we are NOT like you guys in that part of our lives and we never will be.
Frankly, the SMART GUYS understand that! They GET IT that for them to get the most benefit from the woman, it is BEST to treat us in a gentlemanly and traditional manner. The reason for this is because when you conduct yourself in that manner, you are taking charge, i.e., paying is a way taking charge, of making the lady feel comfortable, and ultimately, of providing for her, which is a way of making her feel at ease and protected. That’s really what women want – to feel that the guy is taking care of business and she is protected and doesn’t have to lift a finger to take charge on the date.
The bottom line is that when YOU take charge, you are EXHIBITING YOUR MALE ENERGY – and when you are in your male energy, you allow the lady to be in HER FEMALE ENERGY. That’s how it really works between a man and a woman and those are the forces behind it. They are psychological needs that need to be met. Most women won’t dare say that because they don’t want to seem “anti-feminist” or “needy,” but it has NOTHING at all to do with being needy. It has to do with FEELING FEMININE – and when we feel feminine, we enjoy being with you. I can’t believe that most of you guys just don’t get this. It should be obvious. Having said that, NO GUY who knows this should use the knowledge to MANIPULATE a woman by PRETENDING that he is into her. He should be have like what he really is. If he LIKES the lady, however, and wants to see her again, he should behave in the traditional manner that I explained above.
Happy romance and a happy life with an everlasting love to all who understand this basic concept! – Terri
Okay, so…I’m just going to leave this here. Enjoy!