Name: ACComment: Thank you for reposting and enhancing your column on why women should be discerning about who they listen to when seeking dating advice.  I was struck by your comment on what it means when a man tells you that other men find you intimidating. It’s something I heard back in college and it’s […]

Name: Liv Question: I’m in my 40s and have done some online dating with limited success. I tend to stop communicating when I see red flags. I wonder if this is one: I’ve corresponded about 3x with a guy, late 40s separated. We’ve had a bit of a lengthy conversation about interests, passions and background. […]

Do I strike you as someone who weeps at insignificant things? Exactly. That’s how wrecked and self-conscious and inadequate I felt. Intensifying those feelings are my tours of Instagram looking for motivational work-out clips. I look at the bodies on those women then stand in front of my mirror naked and sigh. Yes, I see […]

Their matchmaking business sounds like it exclusively caters to the male gaze, matching up rich men with beautiful women not for a relationship but for status. That’s what they’re selling, I think.  Not love. Not companionship. Certainly not marriage. (There’s a reason why there’s no Testimonials page on their website, folks.)  What the Spindels excel […]

  Name: Confused Question: So…I have been on a few dates with a man…he is 37, and I am 33. On our first date we met up for breakfast, but ended up hanging out together for the next 24 hours! He wanted to know everything about me in this time…my past relationships, family, what I […]

Last year, I matched with a guy on Bumble. He had a full time job in one field, but was also a fitness trainer. Me being me, I asked him right off the bat (after he suggested we meet) if he was using Bumble to find clients. Bad move. He said he wasn’t, wished me […]

I find myself wanting to get out more and be around people. I joined a few Fitness-related Meetups, but was disheartened to see that I was one of the few “older” members. I suppose I could start a fitness group for 35+ members, but I know it will end up being mostly women that join. […]

Alias (DO NOT USE A REAL NAME!!): Playful Kitten Comment: I’m in my mid thirties and have been single now for a year. I’ve had a couple of hook ups and one proper date (which I instigated). My problem is I never seem to get hit on when I go out. The last time it […]

Name: Rebecca State: CT Age: 43 Comment: Hi. I am back in the dating pool for the first time after finding out I have HSV-2. Putting myself out there on dating sites feels like false advertising. I’m going to meet up with a really interesting guy for the first time next week who has no […]

  Name: xyzed : Question: Hi, How long should people stay on an online dating site after meeting someone and feeling a strong connection on both sides? So I met a woman online and we hit it off pretty well on the phone and after meeting for drinks. So for the next 2 weeks we […]